Going through a miscarriage can be one of the hardest things you do in life. You may be stricken with grief, feelings of denial, and possibly feelings of guilt. One of the most often asked questions is: why me? Why did this tragedy happen to me? While there may be no answer to this question, you may always wonder.
Miraculously, you will eventually begin to heal physically and emotionally from your loss. Physical recovery is typically quick, but the emotional recovery can take months. But keep your spirits up – once you heal you can try again. The outcome in your next pregnancy is likely a bouncing baby! When you do decide to try and conceive again you may feel differently than the first time around. The whole process may seem different to you. Instead of a light exciting time of your life, trying for a baby after miscarriage may be emotionally stressful and full of worry. You may think that you’ll fall pregnant again only to lose another angel.
But the truth is that having just one miscarriage does not raise your risk of having another drastically – the risk is only raised from the normal 10%, up to 13%. Many times the miscarriage was just a result of some chromosomal abnormality, and your next pregnancy could progress as normal. If you have had two miscarriages, your miscarriage rate raises a bit more, and after 3 miscarriages it is time to complete testing to see if there is an underlying issue. The good news is that recurrent miscarriages are not very common. Even if you do experience one to two miscarriages your chances of having a baby are still good.
Many women wonder how soon after a miscarriage than can try to conceive again. Doctors’ advice varies on this. Some will say you can try straight away, but many will say wait one full cycle to let your body heal before attempting another pregnancy. If you had to undergo a D&C procedure to help end your pregnancy the waiting period may be longer. Some people who have had a D&C are given the same advice to wait one full cycle, but many are told to wait as long as 3-6 months before trying again. If a woman’s body is not ready to support a pregnancy by the time that she conceives again, she faces an increased risk of experiencing yet another miscarriage. It takes time for the uterus to recover and for the endometrial lining to become strong and healthy again.
Our advice to you is to relax – 85% of women go on to have a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage. So remember to eat right, drink plenty of water, take your prenatal vitamins, and most importantly, relax and take it easy. If you take these steps you’ll increase your chances of getting pregnant with your rainbow baby in time and it will all be worth it!